Online Couples Counseling
Does this sound like you?
You love your partner, but lately, you’ve been feeling distant. You want to tell them how you feel, but you’re not sure how to bring it up—or even what to say. You want to feel that spark again, but you’re worried that talking about problems will just make things worse. At the same time, you know that avoiding the issue won’t make it go away.
Or, you might have a clear idea of what’s “wrong” in your relationship. Maybe you’ve had a breach of trust, a big life change, or have been arguing more and more. You both know what needs to change, but you can’t agree on how to approach it. You want the relationship to work, but you need help making those adjustments.
No matter what you and your partner are struggling with, working with a couples therapist can help. Couples counseling can give you the guidance and support you need to navigate a rough patch or simply strengthen your bond with each other.
At Aligned Self, we offer LGBTQIA+ and gender-affirming therapy. We welcome couples of all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship styles. We are also a trans-competent, kink-aware, sex-positive, and sex-worker-friendly virtual therapy practice and provide a safe, supportive space for Black, Indigenous, & People of Color.
Our approach to couples counseling
Each relationship is unique. You and your partner have your own unique dynamic, history, and challenges. Plus, you both bring in your own personalities, needs, and values as individuals. You need more than a one-size-fits-all approach. You deserve someone who will take the time to understand you as a couple and as individuals.
Our relationship experts recognize and celebrate diversity, so we tailor the experience to each couple we work with. We believe that this can help you and your partner get the most out of your work in therapy. We draw from several different approaches in our work, including emotionally-focused individual therapy (EFIT) and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT).
Our therapists also prioritize forming warm, authentic relationships with our clients. You and your partner can expect to be met with compassion, trust, and understanding during our sessions. Our hope is that our virtual therapy space is a setting where you feel seen, understood, and accepted.
Just as all couples have issues, all have strengths. We want to help you identify those strengths and tap into the resilience you already possess. Drawing on your inner resources allows us to find valuable, creative ways to confront your challenges. We’ll also discover how to incorporate new skills to help you and your partner build (or re-build) a solid foundation.
If our approach to couples counseling resonates, we encourage you to reach out. We offer free consultations so you can get a better sense of whether we might be a good fit for each other.
How couples counseling can help?
While each couple has their own goals for therapy, there are many common ways that counseling can help your relationship. Here are some of the themes that often come up in our sessions.
- Learn new communication skills
- Process current and past stressors
- Heal broken trust
- Improve intimacy
- Learn healthy ways to work through relationship issues
- Discuss boundaries in the relationship
If you don’t see your relationship issues listed here, don’t worry. These are only a few examples of how we help couples. If you feel we’d be a good fit for each other and want to know where we can support you and your partner with your particular situation, reach out for a free consultation.
In addition to couples therapy, we also provide relationship therapy. With this service, you can get one-on-one support with whatever relationship issue you’re facing. Relationship counseling can be an especially good fit for people in nontraditional relationship structures, or even for single people looking to improve other important relationships in their life.
FAQs about Couples Therapy
Making the decision to seek professional help isn’t easy. It’s important to gather information so you can know what to expect before starting the process. Here, we’ve answered some frequently asked questions about couples counseling. If you don’t see your question answered here, we encourage you to reach out and ask directly.
What is the difference between couples therapy, premarital counseling, marriage counseling, and relationship counseling?
The terminology in the mental health space can be confusing and even overwhelming at times, so you’re not alone if you’re unsure of the difference between these types of therapy.
The terms “marriage counseling” or “marriage therapy” are often used interchangeably with “couples counseling” or “couples therapy.” Many marriage counselors work with unmarried couples, but it’s best to check with your potential therapist to make sure. At Aligned Self, we welcome couples of all relationship structures.
Premarital counseling is a form of couples therapy that’s specifically designed for couples who are about to enter marriage. Typically, the goal of this type of counseling is to help couples resolve potential issues and strengthen their relationship before committing to marriage.
Relationship counseling is sometimes used as another term for marriage counseling or couples therapy. However, some relationship counselors (including those at our practice) work with people individually to support personal growth and learn new relationship skills.
Just as there are different types of couples therapy, there are various types of therapists who can provide couples counseling. During your search for a couples therapist, you may come across the following credentials.
- Licensed mental health counselor
- Licensed marriage and family therapist
- Licensed clinical social worker
Each of these professionals is a licensed psychotherapist who can help couples improve their relationship. Marriage and family therapists, mental health counselors, and social workers all have slightly different degrees and requirements, but all need to have a master’s degree and thousands of hours of supervised experience to earn licensure.
Yes! It’s a common misconception that you need to be married in order to seek professional help for your relationship. “Marriage counseling” and “couples counseling” are terms that are often used interchangeably, but being married isn’t a requirement to get support.
You also don’t need to be in a traditional partnership in order to benefit from relationship counseling. People practicing consensual non-monogamy or other relationship structures can benefit from having a safe space to process their emotions, explore boundaries, and work toward their goals.
Another misconception about couples counseling is that you need to be on the verge of divorce (or breakup) to get help. While many people reach out for help when their relationship is in crisis, you don’t have to wait for things to reach that level. Building a healthy foundation when things are less intense can help you prevent bigger issues later on.
Deciding which mental health professional to work with can be a difficult choice. Ultimately, it’s an individual decision that each couple must make for themselves. However, there are a few factors to keep in mind when searching for couples counselors.
When researching therapists, read their website or profile to get a sense of the issues they can help with and the different approaches they use. You’ll also want to take logistics such as location into account. Is their office conveniently located? At Aligned Self, we offer online therapy to make sessions accessible to as many people as possible.
Once you’ve narrowed down potential candidates, request consultations with each one. This will help you get a sense of how you feel when talking to them. Building a relationship with your therapist is important, so make sure you feel heard and supported.
Ready to make positive changes in your relationship? Couples therapy can help!
Our team of couples therapists is ready to help you and your partner work through whatever relationship problems you’re currently facing. With the right support, you can feel more connected than ever before.
OTHER THERAPY SERVICES OFFERED WITH ALIGNED SELF
You can start your therapy journey alongside a trained couples therapist. Or, you can learn more about our other services, including anxiety therapy, relationship therapy, grief counseling, therapy for entrepreneurs, therapy for Black and Indigenous People of Color, and LGBTQIA+ Affirmative therapy.
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